Whoever told you romance is dead apparently lied. This video right here? #ForeverDuncan? I promise you is beautiful throughout and I applaud the couple for sharing this positive moment of #BlackLove with the world. Witnessing a man take the time out to give his girlfriend a surprise proposal that led to a wedding ceremony that same day takes a lot of effort that will not go unnoticed.
View the video here if you have not already:
But this post is not about this beautiful couple, nor about their special day, which has been viewed millions of times over the past 48 hours. This post is more about the beauty in celebrating the person they love, especially when a man unashamedly and authentically celebrates his woman and the love he has for her.
But fellas, you do not, I repeat, DO NOT, have to be Alfred Duncan or any other man to do this. It doesn’t require you to be someone you’re not. It does require some things of you though…
Diligence
Guys, hard work pays off with your woman big time. Women desire to feel protected, secured, covered, and loved. Your effort and work towards doing those things for her makes it easier for her to play her part in your relationship and for her to operate in her womanhood. Yes, we can take care of ourselves, but in relationships we are not supposed to. It’s an interdependence thing. Your effort to hear her out, work hard to support her, reassure her with your commitment, to honor her purity in all seasons and allow God to work on you so you can help her become more like Christ.
It’s that diligent, long-suffering kind of love, that’s not often shown out here, is what we need when you don’t like us that much. That love in spite of our flesh moments celebrates God’s grace and mercy even when we don’t get things right with Him.
Affection
My brothas, my brothas, the woman in your life needs affection! This world is set out to make us all like lifeless, desensitized people with no empathy or warmth to give, but we need real love in our relationships to help them thrive. Affection is not trickled down to only the physical touch, it’s the expression of her specific love language, the contents spoken from your heart to hers that’s only for her, the little kind and gentle things that make her smile and feel loved emotional, physically, and spiritually. Your love for her should be an outward expression of praise to God for bestowing such a gift, a helpmate into your life.
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Presence
Your woman wants your presence right here and right now. Your attention on her, when she knows your mind could be thinking of many other things that are demanding your time, means so much. You being “present” for her shows her that you care and there’s much to learn from and build in your loved one’s presence. Consider our relationship with the Father; there’s fullness of joy in His presence, peace, understanding, revelation and more by taking the time to not consider anything else but Him. Your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual presence makes an impact on her day, moment by moment. This is one way to show that you are there for her.
These are just three ways that you can celebrate your woman. It’s not about elaborate plans and social media attention. The authentic love that Alfred Duncan has for his now wife Sherelle is just one of the reasons why #ForeverDuncan is viral. We need our men to be diligent, affectionate, and present with us. We want you to and appreciate the efforts when you make them, no one else.
