By Tatianah Green
Summer is upon us and what I like about this season is the weather is generally good enough to go outside and see other people. We get so consumed by technology and our schedules that we don’t have the opportunity to connect with each other, let alone the opposite sex.
I wanted to write this post for the ladies but perhaps guys can get something from this as well. If you want to meet more men for potential dates, this is the time to practice your interpersonal communication. Here are five ways you can improve your connection with the opposite sex this season.
1. Be present
Being present-minded means you’re not eager or anxious to look towards the future when you meet and converse with a guy. He seems nice, could he be a potential date? Or thoughts I deal with from time to time, Lord, how about this one? LOL don’t leave me out here to dry ladies, say Amen! When I have thoughts that immediately jump ahead to the future, I feel a tug from the Holy Spirit saying be easy. Calm down, you don’t know this person from Adam so just be present and be your natural self today in this very moment.
2. Put the phone down
I went to a party over the weekend by myself and as awkward as that can be for some, it pays to put the phone away, at least for a little bit. The party was an art gallery event so I engaged with the art and took it all in. People will look at you and it’s okay; make eye contact and try not to pretend to read something oh so important on your phone. Put them phones away! If I saw someone on the phone I would think they could be talking to someone they’re interested in or seeing. I’m sure that’s what guys may think as well if you ask them. If your phone is away, you’re more available and open for approach. It also shows common courtesy for others and shows that you desire human to human connection.
3. Make eye contact more often
Similar to the previous point, you can connect better with others including men you may be interested in with simply making eye contact. Some of us may shy away from making eye contact to avoid awkward stares, but eye contact is a respectful way to acknowledge a person. It’s the start to perhaps a connection and great conversation. Read more here about eye contact.
4. Own your femininity and let men be gentlemen
There’s power that comes with being a woman. When you go about your day to day tasks we ladies can get used to handling things on own like the doors and the like. When a man presents the opportunity to be a gentleman towards you, let him! I know myself at times have tunnel vision and just want to be to myself, but if a man holds open a door for you, look him in the eye and say thank you. As a woman you have the ability to give warmth and godly love to others in your interactions. Plus we all know that a thank you can go a long way. It’s empowering to the man so let him be a gentleman!
5. Have business cards handy
For the ladies who are interested in connecting and networking with men, it’s a good idea to have a business or personal card. I give men my business card for the blog so they get an idea of what I’m about without having my number. You may want to give your number so that’s up to you. There are also ways to obtain a Google phone number so that you don’t have to give your personal landline or cell number out to just anyone. Share your passion, business or profile with others through your card. When you pass it to them it opens up the door for more conversation, so it’s a connection tool. It’s also better than just plugging your name and number into their phone—make an impression with a card.
Whether you’re an introvert like myself or just wondering where the men are, you make yourself more available when you open up with these simple forms of human connection. Let me know what worked for you via Twitter or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.