So you find out the great news that your friend, relative, or someone in your life is engaged to be married. While you may revel in their happiness at the moment of announcement, some singles feel a small droop in their spirit.
Sure we’ve made it through winter and cuffing season, but we’re in spring now, the biggest season for engagements, weddings, and babies.
As the compliments flood for our friend during this special time, we may have some bittersweet feelings on the inside that are hard to explain and get rid of. Here are a few ways this can turn out for you depending on how you feel:
Happy: Praise the Lord! Your friend has found the love of their life and is about to start a new chapter in their life and you are happy. This is the right attitude to have because that means that you are not concerned about your clock and when marriage will happen for you. Your friend has found favor with the Lord; it’s their time to get married, for “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” as Proverbs 18:22 declares.
Your friend is going to need you sooner or later in this process of making the second most important decision of their life (first is becoming a disciple of Christ). This means that if you have a big role in the wedding or are just invited to the ceremony, you are happy to see the union of two people that God has brought together.
Sad/Depressed: Sad because your friend is getting married? It’s a common feeling…and a trick of the enemy. Feeling depressed or deeply saddened that a friend is getting married can come from the fear that you’ll lose a friend to their spouse or don’t have a potential one of your own. In these moments, we must remember our personal relationship with the Father.
“You deserve to be happy and in a fulfilling relationship, but is that the season you’re in now?”
Through B.L.I.S.S. we want to encourage marriage and healthy romantic relationships, but without the right relationship with the Lord, you will be sad that you are not married. When you admit to yourself that you are sad that your friend is engaged and you are not, take the time to talk to God about it. Sadness is a natural feeling, but it’s not meant to last always.
Remember that it’s not the end of the world, but motivation to be the best single you can be. Developing your relationship with the Lord brings forth contentment and removes sadness; press into Him. “You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. LORD my God, I will praise you forever.” Psalm 30:11-12.
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